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How Do You Stop A Baby From Crying?

Pulled this from my journal. Our daughter had kept us from sleeping for a LONG ASS TIME…

As many of you will identify, our baby girl went through two days of near nonstop sleeping, to be followed by two days of near nonstop crying. It breaks our hearts when we can’t figure out how to meet her needs. And, of course, we need relief from pacing the living room floor with her on our shoulder as well.

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You Need A Man Like Me

A woman close to our family just broke up with her boyfriend. They’d dated for at least a year, maybe two. I didn’t keep track of those details. She’s heartbroken. They lived together, and it was probably the most functional relationship she’d ever had. We were doing our best to love on them and be light to them, so we never made an issue of their lifestyle choice.

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Pregnancy Flips A Switch On The Inside

I spent ten years despising teenagers. I resented them for being so careless and unpredictable. In truth, they are some of the most dangerous people in society because they are prone to act based on intense emotion rather than logic, and their emotions are charged with caffeine, ginseng, tons of sugar, sexual tension, drugs, etc. I don’t trust them. Honestly, I never trusted them even when I was one of them. I didn’t fit. Of course, I hung out with the ones who tested all the limits. Maybe that had something to do with it.

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To My Wife On Her Birthday

As I take a moment to think on you, I am overcome with the raw and powerful urge to protect you. You are my precious one. The one whose love and nurture I covet most.

Your passion to overcome astonishes me. I am both amazed and concerned by the level of dedication you put into overcoming obstacles. At times I wonder why I lack such a drive. Other times, I wonder if you should be able to relinquish control more often to preserve your sanity.

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What Hopefully Makes Me A Good Husband

Watching the movie, Breach, I realized that I do some things right that other husbands don’t. We all fight and argue… that’s a given. But what isn’t given is how we handle the aftermath. What shocks me is that there are men out there who will yell and say all sorts of hurtful things and then walk away and leave the mess. Maybe it’s just a momentary flare up. Maybe it’s cold and calculated avoidance. Whatever the case, I see men treat their wives with indifference.

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How I Ruined Father’s Day

I’ve had a moment of clarity regarding “family”. It all began when I ruined Father’s Day for my whole family. My mom started sharing her feelings about a pastor I care deeply about and I snapped at her. Several members of the family continued to talk about flaws in the church, and needless to say I snapped at everyone. I had a legitimate reason for being angry: I hate hearing people judge my church leaders when they don’t know the whole situation. But my response was so laced with bitterness that the rest of the day was overshadowed by uncomfortable silence. This Father’s Day was for me what some people call the gift of trouble.

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A Grandson’s Simple Reward

I miss my grandparents, who have both passed. I came across this journal entry about a time we visited them.

Nine hours and counting. My wife and I are driving out of state to visit my grandparents. They don’t like to travel anymore, and they haven’t gotten to see my wife during the pregnancy yet. This will be their only chance. This is why family living out of state is so annoying.

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5 Weeks Until I Meet My Firstborn

This is a journal entry from 2007. One of the most magical times of my life.

The clock is ticking. It’s only a matter of time. While I haven’t been blogging faithfully, I have been thinking of topics to cover. I’m thinking more and more about using my time online to educate and train my child. With that goal, and with Proverbs rolling around in the back of my mind, I’ve decided to create a series of life lessons for my child. It will be easier to write once I know if I’m speaking to a boy or a girl, but I want to begin anyway because eventually this could mean something to him or her and I want to get a head start.

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My Daughter Moves My Heart

I’m sitting in the living room, typing this on a laptop while my daughter plays with a pacifier on the carpet. She’s eight months old, and so ridiculously adorable I cannot contain myself.

There is no feeling similar to the one I get when my daughter looks at me with pure joy at discovering I am present. Then she grabs two fistfuls of my jeans and pulls herself up to a standing position. Then she falls down. But the point is she is committed whole heartedly to learning to walk without any encouragement from her parents.